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| "Happily in love with my Asian boyfriend!" |
A year later of our first posting, and my dear Latina reader found her sweet Asian boyfriend. Just like everything in life, it arrived after a series of memorable events.
How did she make it?... there's no mind-boggling formula. Just a good dose of determination; an honest quest for true love; and a keen eye for cyber predators (hats off to her ability!).
First of all, lets make this clear: she was totally on her own. My teeny-tiny contribution was to point out some groups for her to join, which lead her to join other group and FB page for Latinas into Asian guys. She also engaged in interesting chats with Asians. Note: by "interesting", understand: good and the evil-twisted ones, too. We all know them: the losers that copy/paste the same chats to different girls, make them believe they "go the extra mile"; and blah, blah, blah...same old player's tricks!
So, let's focus on the good experiences. She was the muse for romantic poems, violin serenades, and the facilitator of interesting cross cultural video chats. All and all, being cautious of saving her heart (and that irreversible life events section in FB) for THE one.
Of course, my curiosity has been bugging me for some time. Especially after seeing some serious postings and cute couple photos on her pages. Her LatinAsian love is going great. So, I went directly to the source with my questions: What's the difference, advantages, disadvantages of an LatinAsian relationship? What is it you like the most? and what's the biggest challenge?
Her's her very own explanation:
"Well, it's going very well. Better than I imagined. I have to admit, it took me by surprise. In the beginning, I thought it was just a game. Then after a few months, it turned more serious.
The difference? The way he treats me is veeeerrry different. For example: the first time we met (his first trip to the Caribbean) he got sick. Spending most of the time in bed, and even a night out to the emergency room. Although he was feeling bad, he was a true gentleman: from opening the door to preparing our breakfast. He wasn't saying: "me" and instead was referring to: "us". I also like that he has the American ways but his culture lives within.
The advantages? Everything was so matter-of fact, so natural. We are a perfect match event with our differences. And we live in the same continent, America, hence many miles away. The disadvantage at this moment is distance. We long to spend more time together and it's not possible. Hence, we are together most of the time. But, Skype and FaceBook are great facilitators.
What I like the most? Our relationship is always kindling. And he embraces his culture. He's very gallant, and detailed. Not the kind to impress or to show off, you know we can tell when it's a facade.
The challenge in our relationship is the acceptance of our families' cultural differences. This is my real challenge, to be accepted by his parents since they do not live in the US and I haven't met them, yet.
In short: after 4 years of being single, I finally can say: I'M HAPPILY IN LOVE WITH MY ASIAN BOYFRIEND!"
Don't miss HIS response, and more details about this cute LatinAsia couple in my next postings.
