| Cyber love: a way of life |
The easiest part was to find your Asian boyfriend, you have him diving the 'net' for you... But, my friend Comrade is right, the uncertainty and difficulties such as: time difference, cultural and language differences make it more challenging than a face to face relationship. However, it's doable. This relationship just needs true commitment, a new mentality (creativity is a huge plus), and fine tuning.
Our world is going through great changes. I'm a baby boomer, right in the middle of great two eras. And excuse me for always being the delusional optimist, but all changes have been and are for the best. I love these changes, but love even more Gen X and Gen Y that are making it possible, for sure making it so much better. Our world is regenerating, and getting rid of the old, worn out ways of our systems and lives. And cyber love is the new way couples are meeting and joining their lives.
In simple words: cyber love is becoming a way of life. So, here I brought some details from real life experiences, as well as some of the recent research about this topic. And first, here are the pros, I'll leave the cons for my next posting, don't want to spoil the mood. Let' see the bright side first:
According to a research, the internet relations has its advantages over the "normal" method:
Here's a few:
- Initial contact is crucial, either you grab the attention or not, can make it or break it. Different from the face to face where people notice each other physically, then make contact, if ever.
- The relationship is based on real communication, understanding, and an honest intention of getting to know each other. Cyber relationships are developed from conversation. Well, unless you are just blabbering incoherently to some internet shit head or a serial killer.
- You reach a level of intimacy faster. Chats become more personal, and discussions are deeper at a faster pace than face to face. Remember, you don't have the same distractions: a cute waitress serving your drinks; a loud person nest to you in the theater; or seasonal allergies.
- You can block a person you no longer wish to contact. Don't need to worry of "bumping" into that person at the pub, especially if they live in another country.
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| He's diving the 'net' for you... |
Mutual understanding is key for any relationship. Through the expression of our thoughts and sincere feelings we get to connect with that person regardless of the distance. I know a few persons that have been in this type of relationship for years. Some get to meet and make a life together. Others meet occasionally. Sadly, there are the ones that will probably never meet, hence still hang on to that dear person afar. Watching their relationship go through stages, until it fades.
I'd like to hear from those of you that are in a successful cyber relationship. We will be needing all the positive feedback we can get to support the pros of cyber love. Because in my next blog we'll see the dark side of it, and it's not nice. Oh well, c'est la vie, there's good and not so good to everything in life... and cyber love is no different.
I'd like to hear from those of you that are in a successful cyber relationship. We will be needing all the positive feedback we can get to support the pros of cyber love. Because in my next blog we'll see the dark side of it, and it's not nice. Oh well, c'est la vie, there's good and not so good to everything in life... and cyber love is no different.
Cyber love is certainly common nowadays and although is sad to think of a relationship going thru stages before it fades away I tend to be optimistic and see it for what it brings. To make it work takes commitment and the certainty that as far as the object of affection is you can make it work. It is true nothing beats the physical contact and maybe people will come your way and question and shake the relationship. With all this against it cyber love will only prevail with the same as any other relationship, trust, love, commitment and knowing that person on the other side gets u like nobody else.
ReplyDeleteThe new and the old... the new era of technology to find good old fashioned love. Like they say in my country: "amor del bueno" (the good kind of love). Feeling loved and appreciated sure makes up for the distance... got me convinced anonimo!
DeleteCyber love is truly interesting and addictive, and yet challenging. Through the fast changing and developing internet technology, we can talk, see, and share the feelings we have in that particular time, which means through real time applications. Even though, its not that easy. It requires great effort and time. I agree that nothing beats a relationship having someone around you but a true explorer seeks something more interesting expecting 2 options, success and failure. And for that, be ready for the consequences of loving someone far away betting only your trust, hope, and love.
ReplyDeleteAddictive, yet challenging. A winning combination to persist in cyber love. And seems like the bets got higher in this case. Willing to win it or lose it. Our friend here surely is in cyber love for good!
DeleteI still remember when the internet technology was made available to users all over the world,the idea of meeting up with people online from all corners was very exciting,perhaps it still is and thus came about the birth of cyber love,an inevitable thing.Surely it has a lot of cons to it, and I think all of us have heard of a few stories gone bad but for someone like me who is very driven emotionally,for me its just like any other relationship,it either clicks or it doesn't.With a little more caution,I would say there is no harm in giving it a shot.............I speak from experience!!
ReplyDeleteCyber love can be exciting, but at the same time challenging.
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